I realized about a year ago, that I’d picked up a trait from my mother, wherein I would not be present in conversations. Instead, I’d be trying to find a way to agree/disagree with the person about a point, and then direct the conversation towards being about MY experience of said thing.
It’s been hard, like rewiring my brain, but I hope I’ve become more stoic and thoughtful. I was an obnoxious extrovert who had no privacy, shared everything online, and never thought before I spoke.
This post is actually just me talking about me, but I guess it’s good to share these things.
If you think you’re too ‘much’ sometimes, it could be because you are seeking approval from external things.
Whereas true happiness comes from finding the quiet calm, the ‘home’ within you. Once you find this place, you’ll see that your friend list is narrowed down.
You’ll seek only true friends who align with your values, and experiences that bring you purpose and fulfillment and you’ll find a calm quiet center within :)
Something extra:
Well, it is important to share information with others, especially those who care about you. However, you should equally give importance to being mindful of how, when, and what you share. If someone shares something with you, Showing empathy or responding with a related story can be a great way to connect.
Anyhow, it can be offensive and create a negative impression if you overshare or try to one-up the other person’s story.
Thus, it’s important to strike a balance and be mindful of the impact your words may have on others.
Same boat. Thanks for the reminder :)